I believe I remember the incident when your brother was lost. I was on the Adams from Jan 77 until July 81. The incident happened in Nov 80. We were in the shipyards at the time and had gone out for a short shakedown cruise. Shortly after dinner, roughly 6PM the ship horn went off indicating man overboard. Two mess cranks had gone out to dump the garbage off the fantail. One came running in screaming "man overboard". The whole crew went out on deck looking for the man overboard. We searched and searched to well after midnight. It was off Cape Hatteras if I remember right. It was already dark and the sea was extremely rough. We never caught sight of him. I did not know your brother.
I believe he hadn't been on the ship very long. The whole crew was very traumatized by the incident. I am starting to tear up relating this to you now.
I am sorry for your lose. I hope this gives you and your family some small means of comfort.