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Hi I would just like to say that I had pnd with both of my children, I was not aware the first time, but got help with my second. I feel that most mum's lie about how they are coping. I beleive that every mum struggles initially to some extent or other, and if only we were brave enough to admit it then we could all realise that what we are going through is quite normal, also we could be a comfort and support to one another. There is such a stigma attached to pnd. I would be only too pleased to talk about my experiences if it meant even helping one mum to be brave enough to face up to the fact that it can be tough at the start, and that some of us just suffer with our hormones anyway. There is lots of help out there. Home Start is a good one, a charity that has volunteers to listen and support parents. To any mum out there who is suffering, please know that you are normal and wonderfull. It does get easier, especially if you learn to open up to people and to ask for help. Most people are only too pleased to help. Have the courage to ask for help and know that you will always have an inner strength (even when you feel you don't. I got through it and you can too. X

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glouster

heya my name is donna i am 20 years old i have 2 kids one 21 months and one 7 months i am really finding it hard to cope and dont no who to talk to i have a partener who works 12hours a day days a week he don't understand how im feeling my son was born 10 weeks early with his bowls out he was in hospital for 4 month the in febuary he was in with phumonia and in june he will have a op on his stoamch i just feel like i cant do anything write i try my hardest with games water paint bricks storys but nothing seems to make them happy i am really down crying all the time feeling down about my self and my weight i feel like everyone around me is judging me and thinking im a bad mother i love my kids with all my heart and would never see any harm come to them im just near the edge with my self i really cant cope and no one seems to listen or understand please can i have some advise thank you please rember my kids are my world i love them more then anything and would never harm them ( but im not sure about harming my self it seems the easyst way sometimes) thank you xxx

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UK

I just wanted to say a massive thank you for this site. It is so straight forward and reassuring. I experienced severe anxiety and insomnia after the birth of my first child 6 months ago. I am on an anti-depressants which has helped me sleep. I have also been seeing a CBT therapist and last week was feeling the best so far. However, after talkig in detail about my labour I then had a panic attack when my hands went rigid and I thought I was having a stroke. This has never happened to me before and now I feel like I am loosing control over my body and am back to square one. I just want to feel 'normal' and I really am thank full for your site that is so down to earth and reassuring.

The positive side is I do have a beautiful daughter who I love truely, madly deeply.

Thank you for listening.

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Devon

I had undiagnosed PND when my son was born nearly 8 years ago. The only reason I know I had it was because I vowed that I would help women suffering as I did. I trained as a counsellor and have now started working with local Children's Centres and talk to pregnant women, and their birthing partners, about the realities of giving birth. We are not warned about this. It is an illness, from which you will recover. You are not alone and do not deny your feelings. Best wishes, Ruth x

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South East

I've just come back from making first ste and talking to GP. My son is 13mnth old and I thought he was too old for me to be still feeling like this. But how did I think ti would get better? For months I thought that I could cope but slowly slowly I have been starting to feel more overwhelmed and anxious all the time. Contantly worrying about the baby or my job.

Not eating properly (only self medicating with chocolate!) and not sleeping - not just because the baby wakes up but because I wake up at the slightest sound and then I'm awale for ages just worrying and going over things in my mind.

WOrrie I'm going to lose my job becuase I fall behind so much . On days when i feel better I think I'm imagining it and so don't seek help and on the days when I feel really bad I just don't know how to even pick up the phone or open my mouth to speak to someone.

On the surface though I think to most people I've seemed normal and happy - especially if you go by my facebook pictures/status.

I love my baby more than anything but am finding it really hard to be perfect mum, partner, employee, daughter, grand-daughter etc especially on little or no sleep.

Anyway the doc has taken me under his wing and had along chat with me where he said I was normal and even gave me a cup of tea. He has given me a quesstionaire to fill in and some 'homework' and told me to see him again next week.

Anyway I wish anyone reading this the courage to seek help and know that they are worth the effort of someone else (Dr/health visitor/friends/family) giving them the support they need.

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ireland

hi i got pnd after my second son was born in nov 07 and went on meds for it i got on really well with them my father fell ill with cancer in april of last year so things were getting worse for me but had too hold my chin up then in october i found out i was pregnant again i was really scared about how id cope but then thought how it would keep dads spirits up sadly dad died early this year and didn't get to see my beautiful daughter i really am finding it hard to cope now i feel i only started to mourn him lately properly and feel like a bad mother cos i don't want to go anywhere or do anything my life is so different now im just wondering if anyone could give me a few tips on how to get through it

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ireland

hi.. i found this website while i was searching in desperationn for info on pnd. for a long time i felt that i could have had pnd but was in complete denial. when i found this website it literally made me cry, as i was gutted to have pnd but so relieved to b able to get info and read about others and that there is light at end of tunnel xxx

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London

Very good initiative, a good help to so many people in distress. Well done!

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West Yorkshire

I was diagnosed with PND very late on, when my second child was 13 months old. Those close to me said I hadn't been "right" since he was born, but I just kept going and it took a breakdown for me to admit something was "wrong". I felt like a failure and that I should be wonder woman and be able to pull myself together and get on with things. I am now on anti depressants, which i hate taking, but I admit they do work! Life is just too hectic, and with no way of changing things. I have 2 chilrden, 16 months apart, and I work part time in a very stressful job (money needs must). I long to be able to be at home with my babies, or on my own...... All I wanted to say really is that PND can grab you at anytime really, but its when you realise something is not quite right that things can start to improve. I am a long way from full recovery and have ups and downs, but life must go on and there is alot of people out there wanting to help, I just need to accept it!

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uk

Just had my 4th Baby and feeling incredibly low. I had a terrible pregnany with 3 small children to look after, awful morning sickness and then a succession of illnesses (flu, pharyngitis to name a few), which the children also had. My husband worked long hours, I had severe SPD and was on crutches for 11 weeks. My husband was then made redundant on the same day his brother was killed in a car crash. I began having contractions and was eventually induced 2 weeks early due to the excrutiating pain of my SPD.

Labour was hideous as Baby was also back to back. My DS was born with breathing problems and taken to Special Care. He is now 5 weeks old and we have been back to hospital 4 times with his reflux. My husband has yet to find a job and we are financially in dire straits. My 3 other children (all under 6) need me and I feel like I am falling apart. I don't know where to pick up the pieces. Some days I feel like am am actually insane. I feel numb.