Your compassionate self...
Have you ever experienced the cycle of knowing you need to finish a project but distractions abound and you chastise yourself for not completing the task then dread the project altogether? This happened to me recently with so much activity and so many projects taking place over the summer that I wondered whether I would ever finish this newsletter before the end of July! Like so many others, I went through the cycle:
Knowing what needs to be done.
Getting distracted by external stimuli.
Self-condemnation for not completing the task.
Despair about whether the task will ever be completed.
What a chaotic cycle wrought with full-on negativity. Ha! With all the negativity already so prevalent in the world today, is it really necessary to create more? Certainly not, but the trick is finding a positive way to end the cycle. While there are as many approaches to this issue as there are people on this planet, one of the best techniques you can use to break this cycle of negativity is simple: Compassion. That’s right, good old fashioned compassion…the kind where you aren’t so hard on yourself and stop assigning blame, where you approach your concern with tenderness and a willingness to understand rather than judgment and criticism. You know…that quality your parents or grandparents taught you to share with others so long ago…and a quality the angels reminded me about when I recently asked for guidance on how to break this harmful cycle. For truly, when you criticize and blame yourself for perceived infractions or inadequacies, who are you really helping?
So, when you find yourself in a complicated situation cycling through the process described above, take a moment to remember the importance of self-compassion. If you didn’t get dinner to the table “on time”, haven’t quite finished the final edits on your current project, or didn’t get around to returning your friend’s call from the other day, take a moment to breathe…and remind yourself that inserting more negativity into the situation in the form of blaming, chastising, despair, and more distraction only serves to keep the cycle going. Take this very moment to release that “stuff” today…just let it go…briefly reflect on how you got in this position and allow a sense of understanding to fill you. And truly practice the art of kindness with yourself…yes, kindness. Because in the greater scheme of life, there is no need to blame, criticize, or chastise what you have or have not done. Rather, understand the process, be kind to yourself, and set the intention to "get it done" from this point forward with integrity and grace.
Is it possible you might get distracted again or possibly procrastinate on something you know needs to be completed? Sure…you’re only human. But going forward along this journey, you can choose to be compassionate with yourself each and every time it’s necessary rather than sending out more negativity into the world. Imagine how lighter you’ll feel with self-compassion in your personal tool box and how this compassion may then extend to everyone you meet.
Sending Love, Light & Blessings,